Hurt people hurt people! The Origin?
March 6, 2008
My husband, Marty Daniels first said this in 1992. We all laughed and knew it was also brilliant and uncomfortably true.
It’s a favorite saying in our home and with those who know us. Hurt people hurt people. There’s so much truth in those four little words. Marty Daniels has used those words in messages, in conversations and as ways to help us make excuses for ignorance, rudeness and stupidity.
Today, as I’m preparing more items to be posted on my ebay auctions, I also have Oprah on with her special guest Bill Cosby.
Bill Cosby is giving staggering statistics and says the words “Hurt people hurt people”. Oprah repeats it. The words hurt people hurt people come up several times in conversation and Oprah really likes those words. Bill Cosby waves his hands and says, no, don’t give me credit. They weren’t mine.
At that moment, I was hoping by some miracle that Bill Cosby would mention that he heard those words from a radio show host or a comedian or a guy …. named Marty Daniels!
It didn’t happen. Bill Cosby didn’t say where he heard those words. He just said they weren’t his. I thought for a moment, a brief moment that the miracle was going to happen that my friends and I have been praying for … a big huge break for my hubby, Marty Daniels.
~Trina
I watched Oprah last nite when she had Bill Cosby on and I too was waiting for him to say where the sentence came.
I couldn’t remember the exact words today so I went to Oprah’s site and waded thru everything trying to find it. When it didn’t come up, I googled “bill cosby hurt”. It was the first item to come up and I opened it up to this site. Thank you…..it hit home with me when I first heard it on Oprah.
Now I have to figure out how I get out of all the hurt feelings and hurting others.
Don’t know how in the world I stumbled upon this website. I am disabled now, but I used those four words in my work as an addictions counselor and in my recovery (and just life) so many times it is unreal. I have often wondered where it came from. I could have heard it anywhere I suppose—but I just need to share with you that it really opened up and illuminated some much needed areas of my life. It was a huge “ah ha” moment. I still struggle, but I’m clean. I just really wish I could still contribute to society the way I once did. Anyway, thanks, it is brilliant!
I googled the phrase to (Opera was on today for a repeat) and you were the second site up and the first reliable one. Write to opera
I follow your blog for quite a long time and should tell you that your posts are always valuable to readers.
Hey wow, I never knew the origin of this phrase! It’s made it’s way up here to Canada, where it’s been repeated in anti-bullying workshops and more than one sermon I’ve attended (dealing with difficult people).
The simplicity and truth in those four words is amazing, glad I now know who first said them.
Take care!